Jealousy is a recurring cause of the end of dating, engagement and marriage, and it is difficult for anyone to ever enter into a relationship that did not exist, at least on either side. Although it is a feeling that can show love for the other party, excessive jealousy can be the shortest route to the end of any kind of relationship, or frequent complaint from one of the partners involved, which may involve expensive treatments.
The causes for jealousy are several among which we will cite the eleven possible causes that can influence your experience with your partner.
Below is a summary of possible causes related to jealousy.
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10 - The Look
The look is a common cause among lovers and couples who seek a lasting experience, but can have serious and permanent consequences in a relationship, especially when one wishes to dominate the other, seems to cause many fights between couples or for whom is dating.
The look can and does influence a person's right or wrong decisions because we are prone to wrongly examine what the other has of better or worse, leaving negative expectations clear.
In this case love must be consistent with one another, for the giver receives, and the giver gives, that is, try not to be unfaithful.
9 - Insecurity
If one of the parties suffers from low esteem, it is very likely that the couple will face serious jealous crises even if the problem situations are routine, such as seeing the other party talking to a person of the opposite sex.
In addition, the insecurity is so great that even the other person ends up feeling less confident about the relationship and the partner and also ends up having a sickly jealousy.
In this way, the relationship will hardly have any future, and doubts and resentments can happen.
Questions like: The other is able to feel better about him than I do. I am despised or inferior by it. She thinks I'm having an extra marital relationship. I can not stop thinking about him all the time.
8 - The Stages of Relation
Many authors and psychologists say that jealousy is simply a stage of any relationship, ie it is that initial phase where the couple is not yet known enough and the fascination between both is still greater.
However, this does not mean that after the couple knows that jealousy will end because it can continue for life, due to a lack of commitment to help the other.
What you need to do is work harder on your jealousy symptom, making it clear that I am more jealous than you, where the partner knows your partner well and can make concrete changes in your way of being.
7 - The Mistrust
Mistrust is one of the main causes of jealousy, especially if one party has ever been cheated by a betrayal for example or has gone through lies in an earlier relationship that makes clear the evidence that should be worked out for a better outcome.
In this way, your thoughts are always focused on this happening again and ends up becoming a mistrust of the new partner, which will surely turn into jealousy.
6 - Fear
Fear is another constant cause of jealousy in a relationship, and it is related to the fact that the person imagines, at all times, that his partner can exchange it for another person and thus abandon the relationship.
This cause is more common when the partner has many friends of the opposite sex and relates to them very friendly, which arouses the suspicion that there in that friendship there may be something more that has not yet been told.
5 - Self-projection
While everyone denies it, one of the causes of jealousy in a relationship is the projection of self into the other person. That is to say, for example, that a man "chicken" after having conquered all the women he wanted during his adolescence, by reaching adulthood and entering into a serious relationship may have several crises of unhealthy jealousy for the simple fact of Imagine that all women are easy and that your current girlfriend or wife can easily be with any other man.
Too much of this can happen for both the young and the old, who sees the solution to their youth, so she must know you as you are, involving both starting with a sincere friendship, otherwise, do not continue In that relationship, unless you feel a real passion for it and really know your real intentions.
4 - The sexual relationship revealed
Often jealousy occurs when one spouse tells the other all the sexual adventures he or she has experienced before this relationship - the worst of it is that it may include time and place, as it happened.
Generally, the other person ends up getting very jealous associated with a tremendous anger at the time, by imagining that it can come back again at any moment.
It is as if it were an unfulfilled desire on the part of those who feel rejected, that is, telling of relationships performed can be a ragged excuse that he is telling me and is thinking that I am going to swallow this one.
It can be cause for much discussion or even separation.
3 - The Lie
A small lie about what he would do, for example, when leaving his girlfriend's house can trigger a serious crisis of jealousy.
It turns out that sometimes you can say that you are going to his house, in fact, you are going to a friend's house or even somewhere other than what was mentioned.
Everything may turn out as imagined, but the saying goes: "the lie has a short leg" and so your girlfriend may know and the result is a great jealousy, which can be delayed due to overconfidence In it, for it may think many unreal things about you.
If you want a serious and enduring relationship, think a thousand times before telling a lie, then you can tell one truth and the other does not believe or accept it any more.
2 - Be kind to people of the opposite sex
One cause of jealousy, especially, of women towards men is when they are kind to other women.
An example is when you open the door and wait for another woman to pass or even have a pleasant conversation with a friend, acquaintance, or relative.
This leads the girlfriend, bride or wife to create a suspicion that it goes far beyond what it really is, and with that, another scene of jealousy can be formed, as she may think he is giving more ball to Her than to me.
1- Possessiveness
One of the main, if not the main, is possessiveness, that is, when one side of the couple thinks the other is in their possession, and thereby arrests and suffocates it close to them.
It turns out that any exit from the "line" of the companion in your eyes and causes a serious wave of jealousy without it exists, in fact, some reason for this to happen, everything is kept in the subconscious and can remain there for days, If left untreated, can lead to depression or obsession.
It is commonly called obsessive or exaggerated jealousy, and it is the owner of another often passing from a bearable to unbearable boundary, where the relationship tends to be harmful.
By: Adilson Luiz Lemes
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